How to Build a Support System When Facing Pet Loss

Experiencing grief after the loss of a pet can be a grief that is often not as talked about. But, rest assured, we know just how incredibly difficult losing a pet member of your family can be. 

When the time comes, it’s so important to create a support system that can be there for you and give you the comfort you need as you navigate the huge feelings of grief. 

It can feel daunting to put yourself out there and admit that you're in need of extra support, but it can make the world of difference in your grief journey and makes sure you don't feel alone in what can be one of the biggest losses of your life.

Reach out to fellow pet lovers 

Lean on those in your life who are pet owners themselves. This will make the hard conversations about how you’re feeling that bit easier, because they are more likely to understand the special bond with your pet and how difficult this loss is. 

However, your support network doesn't always need to be pet owners themselves. Simply those that knew and loved your pet like you did will be such a great support to talk through your emotions and to reminisce on the life of your pet. 

One of our biggest tips when you are reaching out to people in your life, is to be as direct as possible on the type of support you’re needing. This may change from day to day and that’s okay! By giving people a heads up if you’d like to talk about your pet, or if you’d prefer a conversation that is about something else as a distraction - this will make the support as comfortable and helpful as possible. 

Do activities that keep you busy (and meeting people!)

Sometimes one of the best ways to work through grief is to do things that keep your mind or body active, and bring joy and connection that fills your cup. 

These activities don’t need to be anything too far out of your comfort zone, and can be as simple as going for a walk or run, doing an arts and crafts activity that you love or watching a favourite movie. If you’re feeling up to it, invite a friend or family member to join in on these activities. This is a great way to feel supported without having to be talking about the loss of your pet all the time. 

If you don’t have a support network that is physically nearby, activities can also be a way to meet new people that can keep you company on your grief journey. Start by looking at local and community activities that you enjoy and could head along to them as a way to connect with others - and to get out of the house! You may be pleasantly surprised by just how many activities there are in your area, from book clubs and dance classes, through to the increasingly popular - run clubs. 

Find comfort and community online 

Online resources can be perfect for those who don’t feel like they have many people in their life who can relate to pet loss. Or for the times when grief hits you unexpectedly and your usual support system is not as available to talk to. 

There are, of course, blog posts and articles (like this one!) that you can read for guidance and tips to process the loss of your pet. Some of the other ways you can find support online include: 

• Facebook groups: these days, there is a Facebook Group for almost everything you can imagine! These Groups are great resources for sharing stories, tips and advice, and finding those who are going through the same things as you - the good and the bad. Have a search for not only general pet Groups, but you can also often find Groups for specific types and breeds of pets.
• Online forums/support groups: these can be a great way to access support anywhere and at any time, and you can often share anonymously if that makes you feel more comfortable. Try the Pet Loss Forum from GriefLine Australia. 
• Podcasts: free and accessible resources hosted by everyday pet owners through to qualified grief and family therapists, there are a number of pet loss podcasts out there to provide comfort and reassurance. Check out our recent blog post for our top pet loss podcasts. 

Talk to a professional if needed 

The loss of a pet can be an incredibly distressing time, particularly if they have had a difficult final weeks or months due to health issues. You may find that additional support from a professional will be valuable. They would be able to talk through your feelings of loss and help decide on coping strategies that work best for you. Look for therapists who specialise in grief and loss, and even those that may specialise in pet loss, and this can be a great source of professional and confidential support. 

The loss of a pet can be such an isolating experience, and trying to cope with this loss alone can make things even harder. Filling your days with people and activities that provide comfort and company can bring moments of happiness to the darker days, and help you navigate the new normal without your beloved pal.