Why Saying a Proper Goodbye Is Important for Grieving A Pet
Losing a pet is one of the hardest things any pet owner will go through. Our pets are more than just animals — they’re our buddies, our family and our confidants. They go through so much with us, standing by our sides during our best times and our worst. So, when it’s time to say goodbye, it can feel like our world’s been turned on its head.
Although some people may dismiss it as “just a pet”, we know this isn’t the case. Losing a beloved pet can bring up a lot of different emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, and sometimes even guilt. Saying a proper goodbye can help you find closure and process these feelings. While it may feel almost impossible to do, it is an important part of the healing journey and will make it gentler on you in the long run.
Always remember that there isn’t a “correct” way to say goodbye to your pet, it’s going to be different every person and every pet. You also may find that you say goodbye in different ways at different times, depending on what you feel up to. This is okay and all a part of the journey!
At the end of the day, it should simply be meaningful to you and give you a moment to reflect, grieve and remember all the joy, comfort and love your pet brought into your life.
Here’s some of our tips on how to say a proper goodbye to your pet:
Plan ahead for a peaceful goodbye
Some pets may be in high levels of distress when the time comes to say goodbye, so try as much as you can to plan ahead and create a peaceful and comfortable environment. Whether you’re at a vet’s office or at home, surround them with familiar things that make them feel safe and loved. Our Sweet Goodbye COCOON (Classic Cotton) was designed especially for this - what better resting place for your pet than their treasured blanket that kept them safe and snug every night?
Hold a small ceremony
Saying goodbye can be made easier when surrounded by friends and family. Just as we have funerals or memorials for our human loved ones, a small ceremony can be a special way to commemorate your pet’s life. This can be as simple as lighting a candle or saying a few words of farewell with others who cared for and loved your pet.
Create a memorial
Creating a meaningful tribute to your pet can be such a powerful way to keep their memory alive. Framing a favourite photo, creating a scrapbook, planting a flower in their honour, or keeping their collar or special toy somewhere special can remind you of the happiness and love they brought you, and help you feel connected to them even after they pass.
Write a letter
Sometimes putting your feelings into words can be incredibly healing. Writing a letter to your pet talking about your favourite memories and how much they meant to you can be a lovely, private way to express your feelings and find a sense of peace and closure.
Practice self-compassion
It’s important during difficult or painful times, to not be too hard on yourself. Give yourself patience and grace as you process the loss and make time for self-care activities like a warm bath, yoga or meditation.
If you have other pets, try to maintain your normal routine
When you lose a pet, the loss isn’t just felt by you—it can affect your other pets too. Many pets will sense the absence of their housemate and can display signs of confusion, anxiety or sadness. One of the best things you can do for them (and yourself) is to stick to your normal routine, including feeding times, walks and playtime. This can keep them feeling more secure and will give you a sense of normalcy and comfort.
Saying goodbye to a pet is never easy, but it’s an important part of the journey. By taking the time to say a proper farewell, you will find that the healing journey is much kinder on your heart and mind. Remember above all to give yourself the patience and care you need - hold onto the love and happy memories, and know that your pet will always have a special place in your heart.
